When you are infatuated, you are blinded to the downsides. Then over time, you’ll begin discovering some of the downsides, thereby calming down the infatuation, attraction, and impulse to have them. As a result, the "I can't live without them" and the fear of someone taking them away tends to calm down, bringing things back to equilibrium. Over time, you’ll discover that they have both upsides and downsides equally, because everybody does. The behaviors you once thought were upsides also reveal