How is defensiveness hurting your relationship? Well, if you're regularly defensive in your relationship your partner will feel unsafe with you. They won’t want to share with you, they won’t feel connected, you will lose intimacy and depth. And this causes you to suffer too. This isn’t a real relationship, it’s a battlefield. Working in your defensiveness can change your life, along with your relationship. #marriage #attachmentstyle #traumahealing #marriagecoach #couplegoals #marriagegoals #avoi
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How is defensiveness hurting your relationship? Well, if you're regularly defensive in your relationship your partner will feel unsafe with you. They won’t want to share with you, they won’t feel connected, you will lose intimacy and depth. And this causes you to suffer too. This isn’t a real relationship, it’s a battlefield. Working in your defensiveness can change your life, along with your relationship. #marriage #attachmentstyle #traumahealing #marriagecoach #couplegoals #marriagegoals #avoi
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Defensiveness is the relationship killer we don't talk about enough. Every time you defend instead of listen, you're choosing being right over being connected. When criticism lands, our instinct is to explain, justify, or deflect to their mistakes. But defensiveness just escalates conflict. The other person can't feel heard when you're busy defending. We made a pact: catch defensiveness early, admit when it's happening, take a breath, and try to understand before explaining. This one shift trans
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Defensiveness is the relationship killer we don't talk about enough. Every time you defend instead of listen, you're choosing being right over being connected. When criticism lands, our instinct is to explain, justify, or deflect to their mistakes. But defensiveness just escalates conflict. The other person can't feel heard when you're busy defending. We made a pact: catch defensiveness early, admit when it's happening, take a breath, and try to understand before explaining. This one shift trans
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Defensiveness is one of the most difficult and prevalent things in a marriage. The instinct to become defensive is so natural and yet it causes a lot of disconnect. So it's important for us to examine what causes our defensiveness and learn how we can adjust our responses. That being said the most important part of this conversation is how are we initiating concerns when we bring them up. If I bring a concern in an attacking manner of course my spouse is going to be defensive. However if I can c
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Defensiveness is one of the most difficult and prevalent things in a marriage. The instinct to become defensive is so natural and yet it causes a lot of disconnect. So it's important for us to examine what causes our defensiveness and learn how we can adjust our responses. That being said the most important part of this conversation is how are we initiating concerns when we bring them up. If I bring a concern in an attacking manner of course my spouse is going to be defensive. However if I can c
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Defensiveness is a counter-attack, putting the blame on your partner for misunderstanding you. Playing the victim is another way defensiveness plays out. If you want to move toward negotiation and compromise, take some accountability for your part in the argument. This is assuming you’re not engaging with narcissistic traits or an abusive partner who is incapable of empathy. #couple #couplescounselor #couplescounseling #marriagecounseling #relationshipgoals #relationships #relationshipproblems #
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How to Combat the Dismissive Avoidant’s Defensiveness in Conflict When you’re in conflict with a Dismissive Avoidant (DA), remember: direct demands and ultimatums usually backfire. The DA nervous system is wired to perceive pressure as control, which triggers shutdown, defensiveness, or even stonewalling. Instead, try this: Lead with what feels good. Instead of saying “You never spend time with me”, reframe it into something affirming: ➡️ “I love it when we spend time together without our phones
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