Dr. John Gottman discovered that problem solving or giving your partner advice before understanding their feelings or perspective is counterproductive and actually interferes with reaching a resolution. Learning how to use conflict as an opportunity to understand and get to know each other better is a vital part of attunement. And when couples attune to each other, they feel more connected and loved. We want to thank you for being part of The Gottman Institute community. Use code THANKYOU for up
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Dr. John Gottman discovered that problem solving or giving your partner advice before understanding their feelings or perspective is counterproductive and actually interferes with reaching a resolution. Learning how to use conflict as an opportunity to understand and get to know each other better is a vital part of attunement. And when couples attune to each other, they feel more connected and loved. We want to thank you for being part of The Gottman Institute community. Use code THANKYOU for up
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Dr. John Gottman's research showed that couples on the path to divorce had 1.25 negative interactions in conflict conversations for every positive interaction. Thankfully, it's possible for partners to get on the right track. | The Gottman Institute
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Dr. John Gottman's research showed that couples on the path to divorce had 1.25 negative interactions in conflict conversations for every positive interaction. Thankfully, it's possible for partners to get on the right track. | The Gottman Institute
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5 Ways to Strengthen Your Relationship in 24 Hours | Dr. Julie Gottman
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Dive deep into our proven, research-based course for treating couples impacted by infidelity and PTSD, developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. | The Gottman Institute
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Dive deep into our proven, research-based course for treating couples impacted by infidelity and PTSD, developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. | The Gottman Institute
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Dr. John Gottman explains what early conflict is really asking: Can I count on you? Am I safe with you? Do I matter? If you want 4 easy ways to build everyday trust, click the link in our bio and search 4 Tips to Build Everyday Trust in Relationships.
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Dr. John Gottman explains what early conflict is really asking: Can I count on you? Am I safe with you? Do I matter? If you want 4 easy ways to build everyday trust, click the link in our bio and search 4 Tips to Build Everyday Trust in Relationships.
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The spark might draw you in, but it doesn’t make love last. Dr. John Gottman’s research shows that lasting relationships aren’t about never fighting. They’re about how you communicate, how you handle conflict, and how you respond to bids for connection. Pay attention to patterns, not just moments. 💌 Want expert-backed dating tips sent straight to your inbox? Sign up for Singles Snapshot: https://bit.ly/3BvFdwx | The Gottman Institute
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They may be the experts, but even Drs. John and Julie Gottman can act out a messy argument! 🎭 In this playful reenactment, they show what conflict looks like in real life, and how the same patterns show up in other disagreements. The good news? You can break the cycle with a repair. Watch the full breakdown on YouTube! https://youtu.be/_fdRWeGuAgU | The Gottman Institute
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Stress can make you pull away, even from the people you love most. But connection matters, especially in tough times. Dr. John Gottman shares how to keep your relationship strong when life gets overwhelming. Watch the full video now on YouTube: https://youtu.be/NWMC2Fly_QI | The Gottman Institute
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Here’s a relationship truth that catches many people off guard: about 69% of problems in relationships never actually get resolved. And that’s completely normal. 💙 When two unique people build a life together, differences are inevitable, whether it’s quirks, habits, or perspectives. Those differences don’t magically fade over time. Instead, they become part of the shared story of your relationship. The encouraging part? Perpetual problems don’t have to spell disaster. They can bring humor, pers
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Looking to add some spark to your love life through everyday moments? Dive into John Gottman's groundbreaking study involving over 70,000 people across 24 countries and uncover what the happiest couples around the globe have in common!Meanwhile, John and Julie Gottman are enjoying their time in London, and their episode on the DIARY OF A CEO podcast airs this Monday. Stay tuned! | The Gottman Institute
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We change. So do our partners. The Gottman Relationship Quiz invites you to pause and get reacquainted - with love and intention. | The Gottman Institute
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Start improving your relationship today! Bring Drs. John and Julie Gottman into your home with The Art and Science of Love Online. | The Gottman Institute
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Trust is essential to a relationship's growth and resilience, a concept Dr. John Gottman explores deeply in his Love Lab research on couples. His studies reveal that trust is not instant; it is built gradually through everyday acts of dependability, empathy, and understanding, especially during conflicts. Want to learn more about building trust in a relationship? Watch the full video here: https://bit.ly/3Oii4Eg | The Gottman Institute
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Do you find yourself unsure about where to start or how to approach dating? Learn how to enrich your relationships by mastering vital skills, from becoming a better listener and communicator to managing conflicts and understanding the phases of relationships.Achieve greater levels of connection and intimacy in our Zoom workshop for singles! Experience the proven benefits firsthand on June 15-16, from 8:30 AM to 12:30 PM PT. For more information: https://bit.ly/3yv3jJk | The Gottman Institute
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This April, focus on listening without trying to fix. Feeling understood is one of the best ways to build trust and connection. It’s not about having the perfect response, it’s about being present and making your partner feel safe and heard. "Understanding must precede advice." — Dr. John Gottman | The Gottman Institute
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Looking for deeper insights on relationships, parenting, and personal growth? Our new YouTube channel is live. Explore longer, meaningful conversations with John and Julie Gottman.💬❤️Subscribe today to stay informed about our latest videos: https://bit.ly/40tF2iI | The Gottman Institute
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Is love really blind? 👀💘 Dr. John Gottman, who’s studied love for over 40 years, brings what he knows into the mix. This one might shift how you see relationships. 🎥 Watch and let us know what you think. | The Gottman Institute
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John Gottman offers insights on breaking this habit and shares his own experiences with it.Although it’s challenging, there are tools that can help. For exclusive tips on changing your mindset, check out our dedicated blog post: https://bit.ly/3MlacRf | The Gottman Institute
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